Dear Ms. Liz, I am stuck, not physically but mentally. I really liked this guy at the beginning of the year and we hooked up but then he screwed me over by going out with another girl 2 days later. This was 6 months ago and I am still in love with him. I know it is ridiculous but i cant get over him. I told him how I feel but it is obvious he doesnt feel the same way. I know I am stupid for liking him even after what he did to me but I cant help it! What do i do? One more question: I just met this guy the other day and we really seemed to hit it off. We became friends on facebook but i dont know how else to keep in touch with him without making it awkward? Please help! Thank you SO much!! xx
I think you have, for the most part, already done what I would suggest you do. You need to find someone new, someone fun, someone who deserves you. You need to realize that you need to be needed, and you can’t pine and try and wait for a person who isn’t going to be there. If you tend to see him a lot, or even hang out with him, I would say to distance yourself. Try to just be away from him, or maybe if you have photos of him, hide them, etc.
As for this new guy, do what feels right. You added each other on FB, so, if he posts a new picture, comment on it. If he posts a status, try and react to it. Don’t do it for every single update he ever does, but a simple thing like “I’m really digging that shirt on you!” or “well if you ever need help studying/practicing/etc send me a message” (considering you’re in school). Just be natural, act like yourself, I’m sure he’s as nervous about it as you are :)
Thanks for writing :)
