Love Advice by Ms. Liz

You guys I am SO sorry

I just noticed, I had a few of these, and that last one I had opened before…. It wasn’t until the first one I posted did it dawn on me why all these girls are asking me for advice! I ended up changing my email and tumblr forever ago, and never had any followers here, so I didn’t think anyone would write questions

I promise I’ll keep answering now :x I also have my ask box open now, so try to ask there!

Thanks to those who wrote in!

well I feel so rediculous writing to you, but whatever haha. So anyways, I like this guy..a lottt. I told him but he says that he doesnt like me like that..Ive tried to get over him, but i really cant & dont want to anyway.. I think he just doesnt want to admit it haha, even though that seems really cockyy lol. Oh & Im really shy & cant really just start a random convo with him:/ How can I get him to like me or admit or whatever ? helppp please!:/ -karyn:))

Wow you sent this a long time ago, I’m sorry :/ I changed my email and lalala ok so….

First off, you have to get past your shyness, and get talking to him.
Second, I would say to not waste your time. I had a similar situation, I liked a guy for an uber long time (like, 5 or 6 years! haha), told him I liked him, and he said basically, well thats super but i dont like you like that, and wanted to just be friends. I still wanted him, and I missed out on other opportunities with other way better guys.

So if you can’t muster up the courage, and/or he still wont “admit” he likes you, its time to move on, find someone that wants you and isn’t afraid to let you know it.

Thanks for writing!

How can I get him to hold my hand at school, he’s kind awkward and I’m too shy. Thanks, haha :)

First off, I’d say to talk to him and tell him you’d like it if you could hold hands, doesn’t have to be the entire time, but now and then would really make you feel good :)

When you’re walking the halls, just kind of lightly “bump” hands together, like run yours by his, kind of give him the idea that you want to hold hands. If you’re too shy for that, try just holding pinky fingers, I know it sounds lame-o but its a step closer :)

Thanks for writing in!

Dear Ms. Liz, I am stuck, not physically but mentally. I really liked this guy at the beginning of the year and we hooked up but then he screwed me over by going out with another girl 2 days later. This was 6 months ago and I am still in love with him. I know it is ridiculous but i cant get over him. I told him how I feel but it is obvious he doesnt feel the same way. I know I am stupid for liking him even after what he did to me but I cant help it! What do i do? One more question: I just met this guy the other day and we really seemed to hit it off. We became friends on facebook but i dont know how else to keep in touch with him without making it awkward? Please help! Thank you SO much!! xx

I think you have, for the most part, already done what I would suggest you do. You need to find someone new, someone fun, someone who deserves you. You need to realize that you need to be needed, and you can’t pine and try and wait for a person who isn’t going to be there. If you tend to see him a lot, or even hang out with him, I would say to distance yourself. Try to just be away from him, or maybe if you have photos of him, hide them, etc.
As for this new guy, do what feels right. You added each other on FB, so, if he posts a new picture, comment on it. If he posts a status, try and react to it. Don’t do it for every single update he ever does, but a simple thing like “I’m really digging that shirt on you!” or “well if you ever need help studying/practicing/etc send me a message” (considering you’re in school). Just be natural, act like yourself, I’m sure he’s as nervous about it as you are :)

Thanks for writing :)

all of a sudden i started getting questions…this is weird. i’ll answer them in a second guys

Need Advice?

Ask me anything, and I’ll help you out. I’m always here for you.
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38. Looking Back.

Sometimes you need to remember why you fell in love in the first place. Read your old journal, and not just to yourself, but to your boyfriend. Or look at pictures from when you first met or got together. Talk about what you used to do. Do things you did when you first started dating, like walking them to their car and kissing them through the window before they drive away. Go to the first place you kissed, and kiss again. Stay on the stoop where you work until 11:00 like you once did. Alright, so maybe I’m talking from personal experiences, but let me tell you, when you look back on what made you fall in love, you’ll fall in love all over again. It’s a pretty sweet feeling.

37. Letters Speak Volumes.

So it’s a little middle school. But its fun to give and receive handwritten love notes every now and then [texts and Myspace just doesn’t cut it sometimes.]
So put down in words all the cute things you can think of that are straight from the heart, and stick it in their pocket.
Plus, who doesn’t love to have a confession of love in writing?

36. Don’t Listen To Cosmo All the Time.

Seriously. Unless you want to freak him out, or help sabotage your own relationship by making yourself paranoid with “Is He Cheating?!” tips, don’t take their tips to heart. Just because he’s scrawny doesn’t mean his sex drive is low, Popsicles and string cheese will not make you skinny, and rubbing the panties you just took out of the freezer on his penis isn’t as sexy as they make it out to be.
And for Godssake, ASK before you touch his gouch [see: ABC; the ass-ball connection]. He probably doesn’t want it, let alone like it as much as they say he does [In every. Single. Issue.]
And do you REALLY want to rub it with your knuckle? Ya, I didn’t think so.

35. Surprise!

No matter what she says, she loves surprises. Just don’t tell her there’s one coming or it ruins half the fun. It doesn’t matter how big or small the surprise, just do it. Trust me on this one. Follow this advice and you probably wont need any foreplay help tonight.